Yeah, so, ENFJs tend to be gangbusters like “Hi, here I am, how you doing, this is what I’m about”. Talkative, voluble, animated. That sort of thing.
INFJ tends to be self-contained like “Hi, I’m an INFJ…are you reading my mind right now?” Some are talkative I suppose, but there tends to be this deep undercurrent of … silence. Or they might open up all at once and then you won’t here from them ever again.
ENFJs tend to be edgy in presentation. That’s the Aries in part, yes.
INFJs tend to be intense, cryptic, and verging on mute in communication. That’s Scorpio id. Punctuated by occasional bursts of intensity. Then, to fall silent again for long periods of time.
So, ENFJs will be more continuously outgoing, talkative, sexually out front, use sexuality as a form of communication (this is more Se), more sure of themselves even if they aren’t. They just present more extravertedly. Even if they are edgy loner types. There is a definite difference in vibe between INFJ and ENFJ (mostly talking about enneagram type 3 ENFJ because enneagram type 8 ENFJs can be very closed circuit in their communication).
Anyway, you come off as an enneatype 3 ENFJ because you lay your sexuality out there, let it speak for you in a way, the frequency of your communication is…frequent. Here on the forum. The way you communicate and present yourself here leads me to enneatype 3 ENFJ over time.
You’re not contained enough to be an INFJ. Part of this containment does indeed come from the Fi id of INFJ.
I see much more Ne in you. Voluble Ne that comes from having it in id position. It leads to a hyperactive all-over-the-place quality. Impatient to cover and range over a lot of ground quickly.
INFJ is slower and deeper, more intensive.
I’ve seen a fair number of ENFJs come on this forum (all type 3) and be like “Figure me out. Who am I? Dare to know me!” It’s a kind of challenging vibe.
INFJ is more like “Who am I? Who would dare to want to know me? Figure me out? Nigga please. Good luck”.
Type 3 ENFJs all have that hot Aries vibe. It’s fiery and in your face.
INFJ is like a deep contained mute slowburning fire that can barely express. They are hot inside but it barely reaches the surface. You may feel none of it. Like the way Jung describes Fi in Psychological Types, it can appear cold to the unwitting observer, but it burns inside.
ENFJs generally easily express their burning quite naturally in one way or another.
The best way I can say it is that they are “in your face” whereas an INFJ…isn’t.
ENFJ tends to be more positive and healthy in being able to express it’s drives rather easily.
More mobile, animated, all over the place. Want to express all these things at the same time. Bodily. There is an unmistakable physical kinetic quality to type 3 ENFJ. Like, you can hear them want to body talk.
The Se is the telling difference. ENFJ has Se, INFJ doesn’t. One gets a sense of sensationalism when dealing with an ENFJ. Like a bit of salacious hot gossip hot off the press. ENFJs are just plain hotter than INFJs. Se.
INFJ is more ethereal, tentative, unsure.
Aries tends to act without consideration, like, “Here I am!”
INFJs don’t do that. They will say “here I am” in a much slower and intense way. Slow burn, long legs, undetectable. INFJs often have a big thing with being unknown, undetectable, not giving too much of themselves or information about themselves away. This is all Scorpio in nature.
Anyway, hope that helps. If it doesn’t blame @Ankh.