Originally this was going to be my answer for another thread here but I figured it would be too offtopic.
So, I would agree with the notion that every type can get along with every other type atleast in theory.
Why is that? Well, here we go:
I don’t think it’s possible to have a big strength in one field while not having a weakness in another. I’m not talking about abilities (things you can learn, like history or cooking) but rather personality. And I think MBTI/Jungian functions are quite a good system for demonstrating that: For example a person which has a drive to be creative and think of novel concepts on how to solve problems, probably does not do well with routine work because it bores them to death (it drains their energy). People can learn to cope with their unhealthy behaviours, life means changing, so people usually do as well but of course that depends on if they get thrown into situations where they actually have to mature and develop.
The question is just: What exactly is unhealthy? I would say it’s not unhealthy to have a weakness, however your way of dealing with it could be unhealthy. I’ve seen different manifestations of this, which often come as patterns. I can give two examples of this, right from the top of my head:
Being in denial/indulging in phantasy: If you think you are really competent at something when you are clearly not and can not see reality for what it is, this is especially bad if you are in a position with power, as it will have consequenes for the people around you.
Or running away from it, self-neglect: If you care a lot about the feelings and opinions of other people to the point where you have trouble dealing with their negative responses, so you don’t say no to other people and don’t create healthy boundaries because you would need to step out of your comfort zone.
Of course that doesn’t mean that running away is not a perfect strategy sometimes, however you should be aware that you are running away from it and make sure that this will not have bad consequenes for you or those dear to you. Otherwise you might regret it or end up complaining everyday and risk becoming bitter. I had a colleague once who was criticizing a lot of things that happened in his environment and he often had a very good reason to do so. But the thing is, he often did not dare to change a thing, as he was often seeing possible bad consequences everywhere and as a result he was often pretty much afraid of future possibilities. If he instead used those thoughts (his awareness of problems) to form solutions and plan around future problems, he would have had no trouble implementing plans.
So what are healthy alternatives? Well the first thing you obviously have to do is identifying your weakness and accepting them, otherwise you can not find ways to deal with them better. The most straightfoward method is just to step out of your comfort zone and try to build strength in your area of weakness. However it’s often not the most efficient method available and it might be not possible because it could require a lot of time and effort. Another way could be finding ways around it, if you are bad at cleaning your house then maybe you can hire a cleaning lady, if you have trouble with routine work, find a job where you only have to do minimums of it. This is pretty close to another way of dealing with it, which is ask someone you trust for help or advice, they need to be better at it than you though.
So you probably ask yourself now: “Okay Gardebiter, what the fuck are you getting at with all this bullshit about weaknesses, strengths, working on yourself, bla bla bla?!”
Well, here is the thing: I don’t think you have to integrate every single function in a sense that you need to use it yourself actively and make it strong as hell, I mean that ruins the whole point, doesn’t it? Maybe it’s just not your thing, you have plently of other strengths to draw from, just make sure you have minimums of everything that you need in order function healthily and that you are aware of what you can do, what you can’t do, what you want and do not want. And I think if you do that, you can get along with a lot of types, considering that they had a similar development.
Then go into the world, admit your weakness and ask other people for help, don’t think you’re weak because you’re admitting weakness, not being able to admit weakness is a weakness in itself. Also, don’t fall into the trap to victimize yourself because often times there are things you can do, even if it’s just asking for help. Cooperation is often more viable than competition, especially when people have completly different stengths (it makes little sense to have a dual between a chess pro and a cooking pro for example).
So yeah, that’s why I think any type can have a working relationship of any kind with any other type, you do not have to integrate all functions but you need to be conscious of your inner workings, your desires, your values and your goals and then communicate that honestly. I think self-knowledge, acceptance, communication and shared values are the key to getting along with most people (of course only when it is reciprocal).
What are your thoughts about this?