Ha! I can see where that came from, completely.
So I would say… it’s a matter of perception!
Going off my personal experience and preferences, I definitely like the finer things. So yeah, often, from many options I will pick the one which is the most financially gratifying ( esp for the future, as opposed to just the here and now), but when faced between the choice of money and fulfilment, I will choose fulfilment every time.
I think what helps me rationalise the choices is the Fe, which is far more fluid as a judging function than Fi. So for example, my INFP friends tend to be more fixed in terms or morals, but at the same time more able to correctly self diagnose their emotional state. I’m not that great at telling how I’m feeling, and often get down a rabbit hole about stuff. Then what helps me make a decision is to talk about the issue with someone else. It’s the Talking and not the advice that is crucial. It’s as if verbalising my thoughts gave me access to my feelings, or a more precise grasp on them. I’m not sure if other Fe types experience it the same way.
So, back to being bought. for ages I would entertain a relationship with an esfj, with whom we were mutually toxic to each other (the utter misery of the relationship of supervision), but he had a good career and was grounded and traditional and was going to look after me and not resent it. So, even if deep down I knew I wasn’t feeling fulfilled, I let it go on for far too long. Socionics calls INFJs aristocrats (in the sense of being hierarchical) and maybe that plays a part. Maybe money is just a route to the top, and we know INFJs strive for recognition!
Here is an accurate description:
The IEI female
She always looks fragile and sophisticated. She spends a lot on clothes, adores beautiful things.
She has a unique antelope behavior – ready to be the pray in any time, only if the hunter is worthy of her.
She adapts well in life, has a mystic charm that makes even the most penny – pinching bosses give her a raise, ticket constructors let her go with a warning and salespeople sell her things with discount.
I definitely care about money, mostly because it’s the route to security, and I’m always striving for security. I have recently started investing in the stock market and that’s been very entertaining for my brain. Ticks off ‘strategy’ and ‘future planning’ and 'Information addiction" off my list. A new hobby. A way to plan for tomorrow and get excited about it. Adds a bit of much needed variety to my life.
Now, I’ve not known anyone as prone to getting excited about index trackers, as the only fellow INFJ i talked to about it recently. INFPs and ISFPs aren’t that bothered. My ISFJ dad prefers to live in the now.
Others see us as money obsessed. But I think we do get obsessed with new ideas. And we need security.
To the outside world, that’s way simpler, and so yes, I guess we can be bought, as long as internally we can adapt our values to whatever is required.
If we see something as ‘wrong’ then no way Jose!