How was the young life as an intuitive type? What Meyers-Briggs types did you interact with growing up? (Family/Friends) How aware were you of the fact that you were different from others? What were some of your copping mechanisms as it relates to detachment from people/reality?
I am an INFJ with ADHD…Yes, I’m positive I’m an INFJ. Lol. I grew up with all sensors except for an INFP sister that is 8 years younger than me. I was raised by my ISFP single mother, so I wouldn’t really consider that as being raised. Lol. When my mother was at her best she encouraged us to be creative and get into the arts. (Music, acting, painting, etc). The problem was that she wasn’t realistic or responsible. We had many visits from Social workers ready to take us away. I had to emotionally manipulate my mom into opening her eyes and start caring what people thought of our situation… when I was 12 years old!!!
I felt very different from others all through out my school years. I didn’t realize at the time obviously, that I was an INFJ. I thought I was different because of the family I was from. I was embarrassed of my family and tried to raise myself to be different. I started using my Fe to make friends and be someone I wasn’t. Through out high school I was an unhealthy INFJ soul trapped in an ESTP shell. When “Jack Ass” was big I had friends that liked to imitate some of the stunts. I remember feeling empty and depressed engaging in these types of Se activities. I knew something was missing in my life, just didn’t know that it was emotional connection.
I connected with girls really well… and not even in a romantic sense, at least not intentionally. They would tell me their problems and I’d give them advice that sounded like common sense to me, but they ate that shit up like candy. This did end up helping me get some sexual experience…which mostly went to waste and sometimes lead to embarrassing moments because… inferior Se. Lol
Things started turning around when I was 17 and met my grandfather from my dads side for the first time. He came from Pueto Rico. He was an ENFJ and he told me exactly how my mind worked in a non Meyers-Briggs way, and he was correct especially now that I do understand my MB Type. I learned a lot from him and he helped me get more in control of myself.
I’m done. I’ll save the rest for morning pages. Writing this has actually helped me clear up some of the distorted perceptions of my past. (Devilish Si) I’d love to hear from others!