so, i usually don’t ask for advice on this forum, because i think i got my life figured out.
but, i’m in my Ni grip right now.
i did some self-evaluation and i feel like i live too much here and now.
which is not so bad because i get things done and usually feel productive.
but when i think about the future. it all seems unclear to me.
like, i sit down, with my calculator, and think about all the possibilities.
and because i rarely do this. it’s hard for me to picture anything beyond, 6 months.
the thing is, whenever i PLAN something. it usually never work out the way i want to.
because new circumstances ALWAYS come up. and i have to change my plan accordingly.
and sometimes i have to completely dispose my plan.
and Ni doesn’t feel good to me. it stresses me out.
‘what if this happens? what if that happens?’ so many what ifs.
and they’re all usually negative.
and seriously, who knows WHAT could happen?
right now, we’re getting ready to move to a new apartment, bigger and cleaner.
and i never considered living at home. because i don’t want to be stuck in one place for 20+ years.
but i’ve recently spoken to INFJ, and she told me that getting a house saves you more money.
so i did the calculation, and if i live in the same apartment for 20 years, i’ll be paying more than the cost of a house that is twice as bigger than my new apartment… what the fug…
apartment is comfortable because maintenance fix and replace everything for free.
but in the house it’ll cost a lot to fix little things.
so if i calculate the estimated cost of fix and accumulate to 20 years, it’ll be a LOT.
and i know what people get done in their houses including yard work, roof, and all that other crap.
which amounts to loads of money being ‘wasted’ over the years.
so i began to wonder all these because of this quote from one site
Can be overconfident of their own cunning or ability, ignoring problems which eventually catch up with them on their blind side.
May be unwilling or unable to plan anything in advance themselves, or to follow other’s careful plans.
i feel like i should’ve never entered into this Ni dimension.
like after 3 years, what if i want to move somewhere else?
then should i turn my house into Air BnB and hire people to clean and fix stuff up and make money from it?
but nobody travels here …
should i rent it out? but i won’t be seeing actual money until decades later.
should i flip it? but it’ll take long time for it to sell and that money is going to be rotting in place.
damn. no wonder Ni dom takes long time to take action.
i don’t even know what the hell to do just thinking about bunch of possibilites.
and seriously trying to map out this plan, it doesn’t always work out.
and the more specific it gets, the more headache i’m having.
maybe i shouldn’t tie Ni with material things.
Ni feels better for me when i have a goal in mind that is more spiritual or mental.
like ‘i want to be a great husband forever.’ or something like that.
so. i guess i figured it out. just keep living here and now. and figure shit out as they come.
and don’t use Ni for materialistic things. just use it for spiritual goals.
yeah. there you go. i’m better now.
i got out of my own girp.
but if you have anything to add. any advice. let me know. but i think i kinda figured it out as i was typing.