Oh, damn. You ARE an ENFJ. All you said, kinda spot on.
What’s bothering me lately?? Actually, I’m on the upswing. I’m actually facing the fact that I’m unhappy. I’m a really good liar - especially to myself…I think? You say something very similar…
So now, I have blueprints scattered all over the floor with big plans for the next couple years. But yeah, it’s good you’re figuring out your unhappy now and not later, when you’re knees deep in shit.
I’m really glad to meet you! Thanks for coming here and contributing your perspective on the FoRuM.
The reason I had impulsively suggested you are not an ENFJ is because of what you used to dream of. Prince Charming. That is a form of entrapment that ENFJs do not like. HOWEVER, we do like to place ourselves in difficult situations to see how we can maneuver ourselves out. Maybe we’re like Houdini? Way more depressing though. Haha. I used to dream about eating men. Being alone. I never imagined sharing my life with someone. But sadly, I got the herp from my hymen buster, so I figured - I’m stuck here. He marked me. I’m damaged goods. But I’ve slowly regained my confidence over the years and slowly faced the realization that what I dreamed of, I’m afraid of.
And maybe that’s the big conundrum for ENFJs. Facing their fears and becoming what they want to be, not what the world wants them to be. Which is what the universe destines them to be. Because I’m sure you’ll agree, Fe is a blessing and a curse.