I get that and I respect it. I have a similar mindset to my own whatevers - Jap jokes, queer girl jokes, autism jokes, midget jokes, etc.
I’m curious as to whether you’re as okay with other people - straight people - throwing around, in a joking context, words like homo and queer, (you did leave out “faggot” - does that one bother you after all? Or maybe you just didn’t think of it?). It used to be perfectly socially acceptable - and still is depending on where you live - for straight people to throw around the word gay as a casual insult. “Hunter, you missed that shot, haha, you’re so gay.” “Mrs. Brown gave us another test - that’s gay.” Or alt-right young folk in some swaths of internet culture who used to use the term “newfag” to describe someone new to their forums. They’re not actually talking about specific gay people, after all. So does that make it okay? Maybe not…but maybe it does. Not everyone is bothered by the same things. And that’s cool! But it’s also true that for a lot of people, it’s a different animal when it’s coming from someone else; it’s different from a person taking their own initiative to reclaim and repurpose a term that was meant to demean them.
The question is do people’s hurt feelings over this stuff actually matter. Maybe, maybe not, but to imply that they shouldn’t casually express their discomfort in a casual setting, which most of the Internet is…hmm. Will we only throw around the word “censorship” when it applies to single words? Wait, would that even be what’s going on here? Maybe not! I do think people tend to use “censorship” as a weaponized hyperbole of “political correctness”. While I agree that the concern with political correctness has gone overboard lately - it gets pretty cartoonish in some places - I also think the terror and fearmongering that goes on over censorship is equally overblown. Who exactly is censoring whom. Is censoring really what’s going on? Just because someone is responding to something you said, are they actually stopping you from saying it? (Of course, it’s a whole different ballgame if we’re talking about someone getting fired or having their safety threatened over this stuff.)
Feel free to delete or move this thread if needed; I’m happy to drop the conversation here, or move it elsewhere. Just felt weird starting an entirely new topic when this is a direct response to your post. I don’t mean any of this in hostility, by the way; I know you didn’t have any intent to actually demean anyone. Just kinda meandering in my thoughts, especially in how this particular tangent the conversation’s taken relates to a wider conversation that I’ve noticed bobbing around the forums.