no. not at all. i find it unnecessary and it may even interfere with taking action.
the question was intended to be thought provoking.
basically, you can’t judge ESTP just by how they act. because you’ll have no idea what they’re thinking or feeling.
when i hear myself talk, or sometimes see what i wrote, i always think to myself,
‘damn, i am terrible at explaning my thought process. but i’m too lazy to explain everything. i hope they just get it’
so when ESTP say something. often times it comes off very ‘aloof’ and simple.
like people probably listen to ESTP talk and wonder, ‘do they even think?’
so to answer that question, yes. ESTP think fast. very fast. and make quick judgment and decisions based on it.
just like any other function, Se isn’t just ‘physical’ or whatever people call it. that’s an understatement.
if i’m in a room with bunch of people, i can quickly scan the room and feel the general vibe of the room.
and i know who’s feeling what and who’s thinking what individually.
it’s like an interpersonal multitasking.
this is why. because ESTP knows what’s going on in everyone’s head. at least. we think we do.
ESTPs are not a mind reader. but can understand someone’s mood or emotions just by looking at them.
i don’t know about other types, but i have the ability to get inside each person’s head and convince/persuade them all at once.
if someone says something, i can quickly Se-Ti. it’s like fast reaction. i can respond back and i know exactly what to say to change their direction of thinking/mood (Fe Tert)
my INTJ father thinks best decisions are made from thinking deeply and long time.
not for ESTP. all the information i need comes to my head in a bundle and i quickly make deicions logically based on what i know and the information i’ve gathered before.
so when it comes to making decision, i would tell my INTJ father and he thinks my decisions are irrational and not well-thought.
i might just simply say "we’re gonna do this"
and to INTJ, it doesn’t make sense that i came up with an answer within few seconds.
and like i said, ESTPs hate explaining things. they think fast so they expect everyone else to catch up with them.
so then i explain to him why i made that deicsion one by one, and i list them all.
INTJ seems to need more time than few seconds to process every information.
and at the end of the day, he tells me my decision makes sense. but he doesn’t ‘like’ the fact that i make decisions ‘too fast’.
it’s not too fast for ESTP. because that’s just how they are. it makes sense. what’s more to think about?
so when it comes to emotions. ESTP will experience sadness and depression too.
but they reason themselves out of it and go on about their life.
i can sit down and write letters to my father and express to him i love him and all that blah blah blah.
but what does that do? what does that do practically?
what if i say i love him but i don’t show it? then those words are so cheap it’s disgusting that i even said it.
ESTP believe that action speaks louder than words. so they’ll take action to show how much they care.
words can come later. but words without action is meaningless. it’s garbage. it’s nothing.
ESTP will use words to comfort someone or uplift someone if they have to.
this is where their compassion plays a part.
but they won’t sit there and let all the negative emotions pour out.
they would rather change the direction of the negative thinking.
if someone says "i’m shy… i feel useless and my self-esteem is low…"
instead of saying “aww, no! you’re awesome! you’re so great and wonderful!”
they would rather say
"well. that’s a good thing. think about it. the opposite end of it is someone arrogant, narcissictic, and obnoxious. who likes arrogant people? and besides, you’re shy because you’re very considerate. aren’t you? you have a humble attitude, that’s why you may sometimes feel like you’re useless. but you’re a great listener. aren’t you? we need people to listen because everybody just wants to fucking talk"
so ESTP reasons. instead of just catering to someone’s negative emotional state of mind,
they change the direction of their thinking and try to help embrace oneself.
this is the type of method i use in emergency situation where i have to calm 10 people freaking out apeshit.
ESTP would rather teach you how to hunt for food, rather than just giving you food.
or probably give you a little bit of food so you’re still hungry but have enough strength to learn how to hunt for food.
ESTP want people to be independent and capable.
and yes. they have a thing for underdogs.
i had more introverted friend than extroverted friends.
i have strong dislike for bigger person abusing their power and strength to pick on weaker kids.
yes. because school restricts you from doing Se.
being active and living life.
i always thought school system was the most bullshit system for someone like me.
ESTPs love to learn. but they’d rather apply what they learn in real life than just sitting down and theorizing everything in their head. it’s super frustrating not being able to do Se.
yes. ESTPs usually don’t like peace.
they will be the class-clown to shake up the peaceful environment.
they want excitement and everything to be moving. fast pace.
and like some people have mentioned, ESTPs like to poke at people to test the boundaries.
even if ESTPs think this way. they might think about it for 2 minutes at the most.
and not think about those questions again.
ESTPs don’t like repeating questions in their head.
they don’t want to think about the same thing twice.
once they have an answer, they move on.
and of course they don’t just ask a question in their head and go ‘derp’.
they ask question, find an answer. and get the fuck on with life.
life is too short to just ponder about same shit.
if ESTP ever thought to themselves, which is highly highly unlikely, things like
’why am i not good enough?'
they’ll find a reason why they’re not good enough and move on.
they’re not gonna feel sorry for themselves and self-pity the shit out of it with emotional music playing and deeply thinking why ESTP can’t be good enough.
i HATE watching the same movie twice. it takes away the excitement and i don’t understand people who watches the same fucking movie like 5000 times.
i tell him i respect him. very seldomly.
but i’m uncomfortable with mushy things.
i can only be mushy stuff with my wife.
and i think it’s almost useless to tell my dad i love him. although it may not be. but i just don’t to.
but to my wife, obviously this is important thing to express in intimate relationship. that’s my bae right there.
my dad is not my bae.
yeah my one INFJ friend loves when i fuck around with people.
but honestly i think they intigate shit way too far.
don’t get me wrong. they CAN certainly use it to their advantage and it’s up to interpretation.
but it doesn’t mean it’s only used for manipulation.
i don’t believe in stupid questions.
i think people should question if they don’t get it.
ESTPs are the best at admitting if they don’t know shit. so what? what’s wrong with not knowing shit?
i really don’t understand how some people have hard time admitting they don’t know stuff.
it’s as if it hurts their pride or something.
like some people would just rather ACT LIKE they understand than questioning to clarify.
and i know this because when i ask them to confirm what i said, they have no fucking idea.
and of course because ESTPs are good at reading people they know if you didn’t understand.
and it’s so strange to see how people just nod their head and act like they understand everything.
it’s like so many people are afraid of coming of ‘stupid’ or something.
so the fuck what?
but ESTPs hate arrogant people. those who claim to know something and it’s so outrageous.
of course everyone hates arrogant people. i think.
but ESTPs will SHOW YOU and TELL YOU that you’re arrogant.
speaking of arrogance, this might sound CRAZY, but ESTPs are actually very humble.
yes. they are humble as shit.
because ESTPs don’t mind admitting if they’re wrong. that takes humility and humbleness.
but ESTPs are very confident.
is that contradictory? no. you can be confident and humble at the same time.
ESTPs are very confident in their own ability, but they will quickly and humbly admit if they’re at fault.
that’s why ESTP’s confidence doesn’t rub people off the wrong way. so i think. for the most part.
that’s why they can,
yeah. if they’re wrong. they’ll gladly admit it.
oh. and even if they’re very intelligent and smart, they’ll never come off that way in real life. never. almost never.
they just look too cool and aloof to come off intelligent.
and even if ESTPs are going through very stressful situation, you’ll probably never know.
because they’re dealing with it and they won’t tell you unless they need your help.
and they don’t wear emotions or whatever problem on their sleeves.
so they mostly comes off carefree and aloof.
probably ENTP does the same thing too.
eh. but actually ENTPs get pretty down in the dumps when they’re stressed. so nvm.
ESTPs are very emotionally heathy. i think probably the healthiest type.
why do i think this?
because i went to emotional intelligence conference and it seems like they were basically trying to be like me.
to think like me, i meant.
and i say these things and some people think 'he’s full of himself’
no. it’s just a fact. i never think i’m above anyone.
if people are trying to achieve the art of ‘not giving a fuck’, that’s the definition of ESTP.
ESTPs don’t come off humble because they’re way too confident relative to other types.
yes. or probably not narcissictic at all.
ESTPs are very aware of their strength and weaknesses.
you’re hilarious hahahah
what are you trying to prove?!