I do feel like Si-Te things are very necessary in life. Essential to every type in a way. We all want the good things (Si) in life. And most I think have a plan (Te) to go about achieving those things.
Unfortunately, I do defer to Si and Te more than Ne. It’s a delicate dance in a way. I achieve Te things in a Ne way. Ne isn’t very respected though, so people may think I achieve my goals in a very hard-working and calculative manner (Te), but really, I am Ne-ing my way to my goals.
So that is weird, having everyone mostly see Si and Te when I am Fi and Ne behind the scenes. I feel like these two functions are unacceptable in the outer world, so you really would not see me use these functions unless you are a close friend or a family member of mines. Yes, I would say I purposely project an ISTJ vibe to the world. I feel like I have to protect Fi and Ne from outsiders.
The character you reference in your post is more the kind of person I am around strangers. If you get to know me, I would find it hard to believe you would still have an ISTJ impression of me when I am in my more natural INFP skin. Though I am known to switch from goofy to serious at the drop of a hat in my personal relationships. I don’t know, I just like being serious when it is time to be serious. I am a goofy person, but I don’t let that get in the way of my pursuit of Si and Te things.
An INFP acting ESFJ/P? Wow, I can’t say I have really done this? When I have spoken to some people on the internet, I come across more extraverted, to the point people have thought that I am a widely popular person at school. On the internet, you are anonymous and it is more one or one, which are the kind of relationships I excel in. Group relationships, not so much. My Sun conjuncts my descendant, so I do really come alive during those one on one interactions. That is when I become very extraverted, but I don’t really act like that around strangers if it can be helped.
Apparently INFPs are developing towards ESFJ, so maybe you are meeting the more balanced types? I can probably say I can see myself heading in this direction. I feel like it is a struggle to get into the groove of domesticity, so doing this would actually be quite a success for me. Lol, it is also what my ISFJ and ESTJ parents urge me towards all the time, so if I am not thinking it, they are saying. Ah, parents.
But yeah, I can’t imagine seeming to be an ESFJ/P during a first impression. That’s not what I aim to project or am even at in my development as an INFP. Um, if you see me pissed off at someone I can see how you would think I am an ESFP I suppose, though I think I probably would seem very ESTJ in that moment. My dad has a scorpio moon, so the way he gets angry is not the typical way I think most ESTJs act when enraged. With me, I think it is probably a mix of Se and Te. Loud yelling (Se) with an addressing of how the other party is wrong (Te). Hm, but yeah, not even ultra ESFP, who I think can be very acid and mean when angry. As for me, I more so get angry when my Fi has had enough and I feel the need to establish Te order. If not, then I will Ne float away from the problem if that seems the best course of action.
Anyway, I think I build my life around Fi. All the other stuff is just incidental. Like, my Fi finds Si and Te things valuable because they are more concrete. I am learning that Ne is very valuable as well and that it has really spotted me in some tough situations. So yeah, I probably seem very concerned with Si and Te things in public, but that is more so obligatory than actually wanted. If I could, I would be my true INFP self in all situations, but I don’t think that works, so I just do what I have to do in the outside world to the best of my ability and become the INFP I am when it is safe to do so. Tada, secrecy .