The older I get, the more I engage with various people and build up experience the one thing that keeps backing to me, that thought that keeps popping into my head is just how bad MOST people, nearly everyone is at emotional causality.
By emotional causality I just mean that perceptive ability to see the causes of psychological and emotional actions, and the effects actions will have on others, and their psychological and emotional actions.
I.e. like Newtonian logic applied to people.
People are so deficient in this. A large part of my life has been spent coming to terms with the fact that most other people don’t get my messages that I imply in between the lines, through subtleties, through looks.
Whenever I’m with my friends I feel like I’m constantly having to explain to them basic psychological and emotional happenings in their life, their environment, etc. They can’t see that this is happening because XYZ, and they lack the foresight to how their actions will result in consequences (and that these will keep on going to point a point b point c, etc).
I’m not sure why this is. It’s like people don’t even try to read other people’s minds. I reckon it’s a cultural thing. When I go to different cultures (a few specific ones) they are really good at this stuff.
For most of human history, rhetorical ability and the ability to see beyond another’s words has been the prime virtue.
It could be paradoxically that in our modern western nations we are really trusting (despite what it seems). Moderns trust each other like never before. Beyond a few loan sharks here and then, and a few con artists, moderns believe that they can take at face value what other people say.
I’ve always a preternatural quasi-Freudian tendency to mistrust everything someone says at face value.
“Can you hand me over the milk?”
Me: what the fuck is this sicko implying.