I think the closest thing I’ve had to an ENTP “friend”, which was also the only ENTP I’ve ever met in person (that I know of) was one of my old students, who always got foisted off on me because nobody else wanted to deal with him. I think he liked me mostly because I wasn’t bothered by his nonstop talking and what the other teachers saw as mouthing off. Like this kid was “in trouble” on a daily basis. Which was so weird to me, because I thought he was one of the easiest kids to deal with - I could just give him a pencil and paper and he would just sit there and write/draw for hours and talk talk talk and I didn’t even have to listen, so I could get work done. It was a nice change of pace from having to watch any other of the kids, who were mostly “at-risk” with emotional disorders, and I had to watch them every second to make sure they weren’t chopping off their toes or pouring glue out the window or something.
Although I don’t think his mother would have said he was an easy kid, because apparently he nearly burned down their house doing science experiments in the bathroom.
I feel like if an ENTP likes you, insofar as ENTPs like anyone, they just want to tell you/show you all their ideas and show off their achievements. The other day I was with one of my old coworkers giving some of the kids a ride home, and I got to see the ENTP kid and he was very excited to tell me all about his latest comic that he made and his engineering career plans and how he got perfect scores on all his science tests and he wants to show me and “let me show you my science notebook I wrote so many notes!!” He starts rummaging through his bookbag and just like, tossing paper everywhere, and the backseat is covered in paper before he just goes “I LOST MY NOTEBOOK oh well.”
But I thought it was really sweet and cute that he wanted to show it to me.
There is this other ENTP I’ve been Internet Stalking for a while who started up this free online arts platform. I gave her some good advice a while back for the thing she’s running now (which is failing) and ever since then she’s been e-mailing and messaging me offering me discounts to take her courses etc., which I guess means she likes me. The last one she sent me I responded with, “You remind me of that Thoreau quote, ‘Men lead lives of quiet desperation’, except you’re like a bizarro version of this, woman leading life of very, very noisy desperation.”
What I like about ENTPs is they don’t get offended by this type of thing; she just laughed and admitted baldly that she is indeed very desperate. I’ve been getting the impression from her that she wants me to be a part of her Thing because she wants me to bring some value add to her failing business offerings but I’m like, uhhhh in that case shouldn’t you be paying ME to be there lol. At the end of the day I don’t think she cares that much either way, which is nice because that means I won’t feel guilty about saying no.
So overall, I get the impression that ENTPs have as friends people who are maybe useful to them in some way, especially in the sense of having some information/expertise they want but don’t have yet. They also seem like they like having someone around as a sounding board for their ideas.
Anyway I’m still trying to decide if I want to get any closer to this ENTP lady or not. I do want more friends to whom I can openly be like “you are living a life of noisy desperation”. And I know I could be useful to her which is always nice. But it’s like, I know she is really talented at other stuff but my god she is so dumb about this arts thing that it’s like, unsalvageable. And I’m like “ugh if I get involved with her will I have to tell her that her thing is failing and why it’s failing?? ughhhhhh”
So yeah the gist of all this is, as I’m getting to “learn” ENTPs better, one can Be Friends With An ENTP via:
- Be useful
- Be a good listener
- Since they don’t take things personally or mean things personally, you can’t take things personally either.