Then are you really making the first move?
The weak ones sure. But really, this all depends on your target and your goal.
Hmmm. Okay, let me be real for a second. All of the seduction and teasing I have done…most of it was completely on accident. I’ll give you a couple of examples. When my husband and I met for the first time, I dropped something and picked it up. He thought I did that on purpose. MAYBE the way I picked it up was purposefully seductive, but I swear I didn’t mean to drop anything. Then, on our first date (movie), he walked me to my car. It was fucking cold out and I offered to drive him to his car. But my car was a fucking mess. So I said, “wait, let me clean this out a little.” - which just meant throwing the shit that was in the front seat to the back seat. Well, I decided to clean the passenger side from the driver side. So that gave him a nice view of my ass. My lower back was exposed. He kissed my lower back. Again, he thought I did all of this on purpose. Nope. What I did do, however, was play into the fact that I was a virgin. The first time I went to his apartment, I got on the bed fully clothed and asked all innocently, “So, what are some positions?” Ha.
So, about teasing and seduction. First you have to find out what kind of person you are sexually. Are you a dominatrix type? Are you innocent? Are you a bitch? Are you super clean and slobbery sex is just nasty to you…some guys dig this…lol -“Ew suck your dick? But I’ll ruin my pretty new outfit.” “swallow that? ew.” So first, you have to figure out who you are. Because you can’t be something you’re not. It will be hard for you to follow through and the guy will be able to tell you’re being fake.
What do you think of? How do you like to dress? What do you like to do in your free time? These answers will give you clues as to who you are sexually.
Receptive to what exactly? A pick up line or a conversation?
You can only study someone so deeply without interaction. You have to find a way to close the gap, to speak. Only then will you get a clear indication about what this person is like. It’s like when Blake types people in his consults. He hears a lot. Your tone, your volume, how well you articulate, your listening skills, what exactly you’re sharing…so much goes into the way someone communicates. And put the “in person” factor in there and bam, you would be able to figure someone out very quickly. What if you’ve seen this guy and he’s hot and blah blah you want to ride him whatever. But you initiate a conversation and he is not at all what you thought or hoped for. Just not your style. So you will never know truly if someone will be receptive to whatever unless you start the interaction. Just jump in. You won’t drown, I promise. And it’s the only way you get better at something, is practice.