Thank you, Erika and Christine for replying, I don’t know how to do the ‘Like’ button on my phone, although I like to ‘Like’ …
And yes, I tend to be blurry when I’m writing. I took all this (gaps & farther questions) to heart!
Can I blame my Ni function?
Anyway, this issue with Feelings.
It’s complicated to explain - the whole concept is clear in my head, I’ll do my best, for me, too.
To me, feelings, in general, are like the moon. The moon has no light of it’s own. It get its power of shining from the sun. And always has a dark side. Right?
The same thing with feelings: feeling is just a feeling, there is no good feeling or bad feeling. We people have the right to feel! All problems begins with the way we perceive them, the way the subject interpret them - good or bad, right or wrong?
Past experiences, education, parental ways & situations , upbringing, Faith, friends and so on - there are many factors involved with the way we perceive feelings.
What’s one’s inner core belief about love? One say heartache maybe broken heart, other say happiness, true connection, something to avoid, an illusion… I don’t know. Think of something. There are endless possibilities for one feeling. My husband says to me, occasionally, “I love you” and then he would joke "you’rethe only one who agreed to marry me ". When I ask him what is the meaning of love, subjectively, he won’t answer. I know he doesn’t like to revisit his feelings so I drop it off. When someone says to me “I love you” - I need to SEE it. What are words without action? On the other hand, I use the ‘iloveyou’ line rarely, I admit. But then, I DO SHOW it! To me, love is related to happiness, among other things, and so when I love, I ask myself, what can I do to make this person happy. I think it’s important to pay attention to details, to learn and observe really carefully, it’s a like a hobby I like to play. Because I love to love and I love to be happy. But what happens when the other person don’t see it the way I do? Doesn’t pay attention to details?.. keep forgetting…
I don’t know. These are mostly hypotheses. Not necessarily reality.
And now, about jealousy and angry, they are very different one from the other and positive in my opinion. Hell! I accept and perceive all feelings as positive. They come to tell me something for my well-being. And then, I CHOOSE how to react when they show up - if I’m lucky and have the sense of consciousness, awareness. But if I’m ignorant of my choices and act unconsciously - because the way I perceive feelings is subconsciously, than anger or jealousy, more than not, are receiving a negative form. These feelings are intense indeed! That the reason why most people don’t want to feel them.
I have much more to say, but it’s 2:30 am here on this side of the planet
I promise to continue