Have you guys ever noticed a kind of wariness to interacting with your own type?
I will just copy-paste what Wendy (!) wrote about INFJ x INFJ form the other thread:
INFJs end up hurting each other easily and possibly often. I think it’s because all INFJs have a very simple, raw, babyish aspect (usually carefully hidden) to their core personality, and that part is very tender and very imbecile. And they KNOW it’s imbecile so they’re super touchy about it.
At the same time, a lot of INFJs can’t help but want to poke and tease a bit at other people’s vulnerabilities, which they’re good at sniffing out. So, an INFJ will be poking at another one, thinking they’re just messing around and it’s all in good fun, but to the other INFJ, it is NOT in good fun at ALL and they get very hurt and/or angry.
The only saving grace in such a relationship would be the fact that INFJs are generally good about apologizing if they realize they’re wrong and are usually quick to accept other people’s apologies…IF they feel the person understands what they did wrong and is sincere.
If they think you’re apologizing just as a gesture, or because you want to repair the relationship but that you don’t actually understand WHY they were upset or that you don’t care what they were upset about, they most likely won’t forgive.
I like to call it “circling like crabs” (or maybe scorpions to be more accurate? haha), pincers out, warily seeing how the other will possibly move. I think because you are aware of your own motivations and by proxy, one another’s, it tends to create a mirror effect where you amplify one another’s strengths and weaknesses? Maybe it’s from the Ni haha. INTJ tend to kind of do this to one another too, but more vetting one another based on competence, usefulness, and soundness of rationality.
I also like “gossiping” about the characters and possible futures of everyone in our lives for fun. We like to call it “digging in the muds”, though I think maybe some of our more earnest friends would be horrified to find out this is what we have fun doing.