I’d like to talk about long-term relationships and @Blake’s INFJ post “least likely to be who you think they are” but couldn’t find an appropriate thread. My apologies if this one is redundant.
In the introduction thread I revealed how that blog post shook me. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about it this week. It has taken me four days to read ALL the comments. And I think the comments are fantastic and the best part.
It is my hope that the pessimistic picture @Blake painted for INFJs in long-term relationships can be mitigated with:
- knowledge of the patterns exhibited by INFJs in long-term relationships (thanks @Blake)
- honest and frequent communication with your partner
- finding a partner with a personality that causes less natural (out of the box) friction
- careful maintenance of your emotional relationships when you enter monk mode (I feel like this will be possible because of the knowledge of the patterns @Blake exposed. The INFJ knows they will eventually come out of this phase so some work must be done to make sure the relationships stay healthy until then.)
While initially I was fatalistic about @Blake’s blog post and what it meant for me, I have rationalized it with the above points to reach a state of almost optimism. I believe I can cope with this pattern and have both my art and a deep enduring relationship.
I would appreciate people’s experiences or thoughts about this. Thanks for taking the time to read this.