I have a drunk ESTP shadow that I’d say has netted me both of my long term relationships. I personally really love being in that mode but I’m finally coming to see it’s not very sustainable, so I’m back again at the drawing board of who am I at my INFJ core.
I think maybe when I’m back at figuring myself out, it’s a little awkward to be in a relationship because it’s like some mannerisms/habits are already agreed upon. I feel like I’d like to wipe myself back to a zero state and start all over. Maybe a relationship just makes that not as obtainable, because exploring a new person is as fresh as it gets.
Both my long term girlfriends have been ISFP and they seem to find my real INFJ side endearing while also liking my drunk crazy man mode as well.
Not sure where I was going with this, first post, just thought I’d chime in what my long term relationships have been, and that I struggle to want to be in a long term relationship, but of course it comes with it’s perks. I think it might come down to there is always more to know, learn, feel and experience, in meeting new people.