Today I am thinking about the life I should’ve had.
Today I’m thinking about the life I should’ve been sold by Te. I’m thinking about the life I would’ve had as a Te efficient individual yo.
Oh yes, once upon a time indeed. Once upon a time it all looked so right, so fine. I had those dreams for prestige, y’know. Nothing cheap either! Yeaah, I’m talking about that high class shit. That one of a kind, only old money can buy. Yeees, I’m talking about Te. I’m talking about success. Throw in some prestige. Throw in some MONEY! Throw in some… hm, that’s odd. What else is there to throw in?
You know, the thing about Te for an INFP. It’s a function that is never satisfied. They’ll never be enough of whatever the hell Te wants for Te. They’ll never be enough success yo. There’s always that yearning for Te shit that even when you get some of it, there’s always more to be had.
It’s a bottomless hole, you see? That Te list of things to have and do is never ending! And you know, it’s not Te’s fault. No, that’s high treason to say! It actually all comes back to… INFP!
Ah, yes! The fault is with you, I 'clare! For what is the limit for an NF type? There’s always, more, more, MORE! MORE money to be had, MORE success to be achieved, MORE mountains to be climbed. For the goalpost of success always… Magically moves whenever INFP succeeds at whatever Te dream they had… As soon as the feeling of satisfaction and peace and fucking VICTORY should be had, INFP… Quite quickly, has yet… ANOTHER Te goal to be achieved.
And the cycle repeats, and repeats, a-n-d r-e-p-e-a-t-s, aNd rePEa+s, and I think you get the gist.
Oh, INFP. Searching for happiness in the outer world. Searching for peace in money. Ah, you will learn some things can’t be bought. Some things can’t be concisely and precisely placed away as a very specific and exact thing in a perfect space. Your happiness can’t be found in… That perfect Te structure that is oh so alluring and… calling out to you. You gotta, do something else!
But what to do? What to do!
Well dear friend, amusement is key!
Where is the fun? Where’s the party? Who’s laughing? Who’s in for a shock?
Activate that Ne baby! It looks like this one specific, and quaint question for anything that is too stagnant in your life.
It’s simply, “How can I have fun?”
Or, “How can I amuse myself?”
That’s it. And oh, I can feel those well adjusted individuals coming from all four corners of the Earth! So confused, so concerned!
“But JaMisa, having fun doesn’t pay the bills!”
“Fun? I’m too old to go to a park! The last swing I was on broke!”
“Fun? How do I have fun? Is it a specific activity or like, do I need to go somewhere?”
“I’m lost, what?”
Well, that’s kind of rude. Let’s meet at the middle at blahblahblah. M’kay?
The genius of this question for INFP is that…,You will find the answer yourself and it can be used anywhere at anytime.
Oh, you can’t fool me INFP! I know you don’t what someone telling you what to do! Oh yes, you don’t want ready made answers! Fool proof structures, nah!
Nay I say, that’s all a charade!
INFPs present like, “Oh tell me what to do, I’m so confused! I just need the proper instruction, the right tutelage! And then I’ll be okay!”
And INFPs can be impossible to help because they are like, wanting to find emotional satisfaction from an outside (probably Te) thing! INFPs try to put themselves in line, properly file themselves away thinking that peace and happiness will come from this. But usually, INFP is like, “I gotta make a change!” And so they burst free! Liberation at last!
Just to, find another structure, find their place, and to husk there, only to once again, repeat this infuriating process!
Because INFP is not, ultimately pleased with the humdrum. The routine-like. The orderly. The absolutes of who to be and how to be and when to be it. (sigh) And INFPs want this order because of Si pull, “I swear, I just want peace!”
disrupts peace SOMEWAY SOMEHOW
“Ack, I still want peace!”
It’s just, a dangerous cycle baby!
My proposal for INFP is to, seek to have fun or, to be amused somehow because, this will get them out of the humdrum of life and presents INFP with an opportunity to start to listen to themselves and not to the well intentioned outside World that is jacked up on Se and Te.
Because of the whole, Si-Te thing INFPs have going on, INFPs usually look for someone or some well established structure to get advice from or to sleuth their way into. And either INFP finds peace and disrupts it or never finds peace and keeps looking for this thing to give them ultimate happiness or peace.
And this all puts INFP into Fi-Si mode or has them heavily rely on Si-Te.
Which sucks because INFP in jacked on Fi and Ne.
And of course, INFP does typical thing of bypassing their aux function and forsaking that spark of fun!
So, INFPs need to get into the moment because they always postpone happiness via moving Te goalpost or waiting for whatever advice someone gives them to magically work (because everyone has a gimmick to make you happy lol).
INFP needs to put the focus back on themselves and stimulate their own happiness because I feel, INFP also has a certain amount of distrust or wariness listening to others and always checks back in to how they think something should be done (Fi-Te axis). So, INFP is distrustful of others but also seeks to listen to others. One foot in, one foot out.
And then, both feet are out when INFP gets bored!
So, for this question I am asking for INFP to use, I think it’s great because it instantly activates Ne. No more Fi-Si humdrum instantly because INFP is looking to disrupt the humdrum. Good! And no rebelliousness is activated because INFP is looking to themselves for advice, so no more Si-Te exasperation from advice givers or power structure jumping of INFP. Nice!
And, I’m tentatively saying this part, but I think Se superego is activated because after INFP has considered vast possibilities of what to do for fun (Ne), they then do them right then and there (Se? sounds like it).
But yes, there definitely is the physical, doing part that is apart of the answer to the question!
And so I have more refined question!
“What can I do to amuse myself now?”
“Right now, what can I do to amuse myself?”
And when you find that one thing to do, do it! Right then and there! Don’t delay, hurry!
I know there are INFPs in jobs they don’t like, and while ideally INFP finds a job that fulfills this constant need for amusement and excitement, I think more realistically, INFP should try to have fun in whatever they’re doing because that will keep them from feeling too stagnant and maybe leaving a good thing (well, for the most part lol).
And let me be a little more clear.
When I say INFP should amuse themselves, I’m not saying they should be overjoyed at whatever activity they are doing. It doesn’t have to be this, bowling over yourself from having so much fun thing. It’s just about ending the monotony and eventually having this question as a perpetual mindset or intent when doing something. In that way, it doesn’t really matter how stuffy or boring an environment of activity is, INFP will find a way to have fun. And well, I think that is the main gripe of INFP that usually takes a more, tangible disguise as a “bad job” or… bad whatever.
It’s the false equivocation that INFP makes that “outer thing I do should equal inner happiness”.
When really, INFP has to stop taking themselves out of the equation and needs to take a proactive approach that looks like “Happiness is a state I can enter into at any time or place whenever I feel so inclined to do so.”
Hm, sound kind of spiritual. Hope that’s not a turnoff lol.
But yeah, okay. So this is a checklist of what INFP needs for, an instant burst of happiness or instant Ne aux activation!
1.) Ask yourself how to have fun now.
2.) Find answer to how to have fun now.
3.) Have fun now.
And for 2. It doesn’t have to be something super dramatic (NF god damnit!) It could literally be something as simple as rubbing hands together. Lol, really it can be THAT simple.
But yeah, it’s like the answer could be physical movement of some kind (I mean, to happen quick it probably is lol).
Because when I ask myself this question throughout the day, I usually just smile or wiggle my fingers or sing. Just instant disturbance of whatever peace is making me feel super bored. Instant giddiness from doing something a little naughty or disruptive (lol, how boring am I?).
Okay, this is just my experience but everyone else, does this question seem plausible? I changed it like three times during this post lol, but yes, what say you?