Yeah, I use a different type of astrology. I like 13 signs astrology, but I’m not really an expert on it by any means. Yeah, I was into vedic astrology for a while. It can be quite confusing, but I liked to watch KRSchannel on Youtube a lot for clarification.
Are INFPs contrarian in that way? I would say yes, but I would say that is an outsiders view as well.
I agree with Blake when he says that INFPs have an invisibility factor due to inner and outer emptiness. I would suppose that INFPs deal with this emptiness in their own way, but based on my experience, here is a little sketch of what I did.
I didn’t feel like I have a sense of self when I was young, so I made one. This was back in elementary school. I drew on a series of traits and hobbies that I liked until I felt like I came up with a solid concept of a “self” that I could use to navigate the many personal or impersonal relationships I had. With this “self”, I sorted what was meant for personal relationships and impersonal relationships. After that, I started to give levels to information that I found to be personal or meaningless. Next, I had a nice self I could use when interacting with others. Some people had more or less access to certain aspects of my “self”, but that depended upon the relationship we had and the level of importance I assigned to it in relation to my other relationships.
Still with me? Lol, it’s about to get a bit more long winded.
When making a friend, I would test them to see if they could handle a certain aspect of my “self”. Were they traditional, progressive, sarcastic, etc.? Based on this, I would reveal and hide certain aspects of my “self”. Of course, there was also information that I gave to a friend that was very basic to the point that I wouldn’t even associate myself with it if it weren’t for other people doing it. One of those things is my favorite color. I don’t feel very passionate about the color purple, but other people associate a favorite color with a self, so I found a color and did the same. Personally, I don’t think the color I like best is all that important in any particular sense.
Let’s say your friend has the same thinking I do. She likes purple, but it isn’t all that big a deal for her. Enter (possibly?) Ni. Ni takes in everything whole heartedly. It doesn’t have a neat little filtering system like Fi, so it takes in everything (sucks like a void?). In reference to someone else’s self, Ni takes in every little detail the person knowingly or unknowingly gives, no matter how important or unimportant the information may be to the person who dispensed the information.
So, INFP likes purple. You tease her about this. Result, she avoids the subject. In my mind, I think she is just offended. Like, she has so many components of her “self” (like me? Or is this just me? Lol) that she would be willing to share with you, but you zoom in on color of all things. Something that she would probably tell any random ole stranger fascinates you to the point that you tease her about it (though all in the manner of a friend of course).
Yeah, I could be painting this picture wrong, but I would probably be offended too. Especially if we were close friends, like my Fi would give you a pass to know so many things about me, but instead you focus on my favorite color? Something that is so meaningless to me that I could change it? Yeah, I think it’s probably just that simple. Plus, I think INFPs don’t like being categorized, but if you categorize them based on something they don’t even see as important, then it can go from “don’t put me in a box” to “well at least let me give a damn about the box I’m being put in”. Aha, yeah, sorry for this long post… But your comment made this stuff ooze out of my brain for some reason. Plus I feel like there is STIIIIIL so much I could say, but I’ll end it here