I have this theory that the perfect husband would be someone who could use both Te and Fe. Te to organize and get things done and Fe to be both patient and romantic.
This is obviously not possible because there is no type who has both in their main stack. But that is why the perfect partner doesn’t exist anyway.
But I vouch to say that Te users often find out they need a little more Fe in their relationships. Similarly, a lot of Fe users often find out they need a little more Te in their relationships.
Just like Blake says, INFJs need Te minimums to make things happen for their partners. Flipside, INTJs need Fe minimums to resist the urge to optimize everything for their partners.
You might disagree with me and say “Are you saying users who don’t have Te or Fe as their dominant or secondary function make terrible lovers or spouses?” Not necessarily, that would mean the INTP, ENTP, INFP, ENFP, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP, and ESTP are all terrible spouses. That can’t be true, the divorce rate would be terribly high. But these types can often combine functions to generate the same effect. An ENTP can put Ne and Ti together to generate the effect of Te. After that, they just need to develop their Fe and boom, they are just as good of a partner.
I guess what I’m saying is, when it comes to a real relationship, there are two fundamental parts I’ve noticed that make it flourish. Reliability (Te) and romance, patience (Fe). Reliability builds trust because you never have to worry about your partner being late, financially unstable, or forgetting important things. Romance obviously keeps the spark going. And patience builds tolerance for the parts of us that aren’t so pretty. We all have our bad sides and moments and need someone who is patient enough to accept those things. Feeling completely accepted is a good feeling.