ENFJ have gas to run on forever if they want probably (or perhaps run into high stress nervous breakdown territory, but that may be more from fighting for an “impossible cause” type of issues).
Apparently, ~14% of all women are ISFJ, so it’s likely that those stats about women are more about how ISFJ handle menopause and the like.
ISFP are artist-y types and I think sometimes outsider types. So I guess all the places you’d look for poetic INFJ men is good (infj men are rarer, so even if you ran into what you think is an infj man, it’s probably isfp man)? So go to art shows and gritty/grungy indie concerts. Lots of craftsmen and loner types. I guess they are like ISTP, but moody and hard romantics. I feel like ENFJ are attractive to ISFP because you come off as glittery aura and almost above the grime to them, so you just need to be in the scene to pull interest. Hook up with and use everyone, they won’t mind (too much, it will help fuel that angsty art? hahah).
If you read online descriptions about ISFP, they might seem super boring dainty creatures to you, but I think a lot of them have a great deal of edge and angst they need to vent and need a “cause” or “catalyst” for that. They are a lot like INFJ except less rational, but that means you can easily set them back to neutral through sheer force of will or skillful assurances.
INFJ uh… seems like they can really just mentally and physically check out in the least sexy/burn bridge way possible?? hahaha Maybe they see ENFJ Fe as shallow, especially when they are angry, and get even angrier about it (they use it as a “tool” in aux after all, so they probably think ENFJ are being similarly hypocritical/manipulative about using it. It’s a weird dynamic). ISFP are not as incensed about those things since it’s not in their immediate radar, and I think ISFP actually enjoy skillful Fe use on them.