So I think I finally nailed my girlfriend’s type down… For the longest time (been together 3 years) I thought she was ISFJ, but no longer! It just clicked for me and I’m 95% sure she’s ISFP.
Here are the reasons I thought she was ISFJ:
She’s very much into tradition in many aspects of her life. If she’s done it since she was a kid, she’ll get upset if something happens to prevent it: how a certain dish is prepared, a certain tradition connected to a holiday, her weekly family get-togethers. And that brings me to my next point:
**Also! She remembers things–VERY specific things–about events that happened to her when she was 3-4 years old and beyond. She’ll remember what she was wearing, what she was doing, what the weather was like when she was 3-4 years old!? It boggles my mind every time, because it’s hard for me to remember shit that happened yesterday, much less when I was a toddler. She amazes me with it.
She’s extremely family oriented. She loves them more than anything in the world, and she says she’d never leave the place we’re in–as in move somewhere else–because her family is here. Her dad comes to our place every day to hang out (which honestly is really starting to get on my nerves.) She talks to her mom on the phone 2 million times a day, etc. etc…
Then, she says all the time that she can’t stand it if she doesn’t know what’s going on, as far as big plans, our financial situation, things of that nature…
But then it dawned on me… I’ve known forever that she’s ISFx–maybe these things I described above are associated with Si id!
Because other than those things, she is very much an ISFP:
She’s not “soft” like we’ve been describing ISFJ to be. She doesn’t look like someone you could walk all over and treat as a door mat. She’s tough too. I met her working at a hotel–she was a housekeeper and was one of the best there. She always put her head down and worked like a champ every single day, often in 100° heat, rolling room after room after room.
I can tell she’s a deeply emotional person and lives in her feelings constantly, but she’s not very expressive at all. I ALWAYS know when something is bothering her, and it takes a good amount of prodding and prying to get her to open up about things, but she does usually end up telling me. But then there are times when she’ll insist that nothing is wrong, so I won’t keep bugging her about it. But yes, she definitely lives from her feelings. It’s the world she inhabits.
Also–not very often–when something has really touched a nerve with her, like hit her right in the moral code–she’ll get very angry and lash out like a snake. It often comes out of nowhere, but after those situations, I know to try to stop joking about certain things. Well damn, I should’ve started with this point, but these situations usually arise when I’m joking about something (I have a VERY fucked up sense of humor and nothing is really off limits to me as far as joking around.) So she’ll start fuming about whatever the joke was about and she’ll call me an asshole in all seriousness, and I’ll laugh my ass off and promise her never to joke about it again.
So yeah, I know she has a very put together moral compass, and certain things will set her off. I would expect this kind of thing from an ISFP instead of an ISFJ.
But yeah! I figured I’d make this a topic…
My apologies if there’s already one like it elsewhere