Hey, @supernokturnal! I love this video. Fuck budgets, fuck bucks, fuckbergs… awesome.
This speaks to me because I do A LOT just because I feel obligated, not because I actually want to. Today I have to go to someone’s birthday party at a bar. My husband works with him. Do I want to go? Nope. Am I going to enjoy it? Nope. There will be a bunch of cops there, so the ONLY way I see enjoying myself is if they handcuff me and take turns on me. But that won’t happpen. This is what will happen: I’ll be the designated driver for my husband. He’ll forget to introduce me to several people, so I will have to introduce myself, which makes him look like an idiot. He’ll apologize about it later. There will be chicks there who have already formed tight clicks and look at me and ask, “Do you have children? Well, you’re still young.” Then they will proceed to talk about how little johnny won an award for being the brightest kiss-ass. I will look bright and bubbly, because I always do. Asking questions to sound interested and to keep it loud enough so I can’t hear the voice in me that says, “you’re unhappy”. At some point, my husband will probably leave me because when he gets into “network” mode, it’s all about him. So at some point, it will eventually feel like I went by myself. Then, I will drive us home. He’ll either apologize for the whole night or he’ll ask why I didn’t have fun.
Shoulda shared this video a month ago before I committed to this thing. But thanks for sharing it!! I plan on applying it to my life! I need to learn how to say no. And I need to learn to say - because I don’t want to.