those listed above, when it comes to ‘chemistry’, i’d say probably the best type.
and this ‘soul-mate’ doesn’t have to be someone you marry.
in my honest opinion and observation, things get worse when you marry your ‘soul-mate’.
in a friendship between these two types, there is growth, more than any other types can provide.
but not someone you want to spend 24/7 and rest of your life with, being married, making decisions together. no.
i dated an ISFJ, and it was the toughest relationship i’ve ever had.
and i’m glad i went through it. it made me realize what i don’t want in a ‘long-term’ relationship.
we just didn’t see the world the same way. it was very hard to make any decision, and come to agreement with stuff.
this chart, it’s like this for ESxP types, they go with ISxJ types. <-in this case both are sensors. but Se and Si.
but with ESxJ types, they go with INxP types. <- in this case sensor and intuitive flip. but Fe and Fi, and Te and Ti.
basically, opposite of Dominant function in extroversion/introversion flips.
INFJ, Ni. ENTP, Ne.
ENFP, Ne. INTJ Ni.
so if INTJ’s best ‘soul-mate’ is ENFP Ne, the second best would be ENTP Ne.
alright, moving on…
MANY couples i’ve seen tend to marry their ‘soul-mate’.
and when i see these couples, i think of the concept ‘opposite attracts’.
but it doesn’t make the best ‘partner’.
there are many differences in interest and activities. this relationship is, in my opinion, for ‘mental/spiritual’ growth.
many ENFP gets frustrated at their INTJ marriage mate, not socializing, wanting to go home early, not speaking up during conversation. and find INTJ boring.
but there seems to be a ‘balance’ and ‘harmony’ because of this difference.
if i had to use an analogy. it’s like being born into a religion.
most people whose born into religion don’t really ‘question’ if their religion is the ultimate source of salvation or not.
it takes more than just ‘questioning’ for someone to realize being in their religion that they grew up in, is not the ultimate, or the only way of salvation.
and even though they may not like being in their religion, they feel like getting out of their ‘comfort zone’ requires so much effort and research.
many don’t take this route. but a handful does.
many of these ‘soul-mate’ marriage goes through much suffering and tribulation.
they go through the stages of ‘wanting to divorce’. but good amount will stick around and try to make the relationship work.
but these type of marriages, either one or both question 'do i regret being married to this person?'
of course this can happen in any kind of marriage. but this seems to happen more often.
just strictly in my observation.
i’m not claiming any of these are hard facts.
many people don’t even know who they are themselves until at least the age of 30.
and from my observation, when people aren’t aware of who they are, they tend to marry their natural ‘soul-mate’.
because there is the most natural chemistry and attraction.
but in my opinion, that’s a poor choice, because they didn’t consider other factors into what marriage is going to be.
do they have similar values? similar hobbies? similar understanding of culture? similar taste in food? will they get along with their partner’s family members? do they have better understanding on how to resolve conflict? etcetc.
but when one really knows what they want AND don’t want, what they need and don’t need, they can make better decision, surpassing the MBTI typing. or just natural 'soul-mate’
it opens that individual into new possibilities and not limiting his/herself to just one or two types that are ‘best matching’.
and this natural ‘soul-mate’ doesn’t always provide growth either.
rather, it FORCES one to ‘grow’. because that’s the only way to create harmony.
when i was dating an ISFJ, who always needed to be in control of her situation, i had hard time ‘planning my future’ because she would freak out if she didn’t know what we are doing next.
i could NEVER surprise her with gifts because she hated the anticipation.
we could not enjoy the same hobby. and my ‘strength’ seemed like a flaw, and i felt like i had to ‘work on myself’ a lot.
i tried to “fix” my ESTPness.
but that made me more unhappy, and i wanted to break-free. but i felt stuck.
then i realize, i needed someone, i wanted someone who will enhance my ability and appreciate what i can bring to the table. not just ‘correct’ myself.
there’s this INFJ - ENTP couple. and i always see INFJ correcting ENTP. and is that ENTP truly happy?
hell to the no. well they are married. and their culture don’t really believe in divorce… although they have considered it. there’s too much pressure for them to NOT divorce.
and there’s ISTP - ENTJ couple i know also. this ISTP loves his job. he is a mechanic. how wonderful right? haha. and ENTJ wants to go out and have fun on the weekends. but ISTP wants to stay home and relax. and sometimes the ISTP will reluctantly go out with her. and ENTJ complains because ISTP always ‘chills’ on the weekend and not ‘do anything’.
when you really look at these list, it may appear that these opposite works like Yin and Yang. but i’ve seen less harmony between these two types.
i do think that these work better in a strictly platonic friendship situation. where there is no romance and no expectation.
in friendship, there will be admiration to each other. but in romantic relationship, there seems to be more frustration building up.
i’ve seen other types of ‘non soul-mate’ couples being in a relationship.
and it seems like they make a better team than this ‘soul-mate’ chart.
and there are so many variables.
when one person understands his/her individuality, they become more than their MBTI type, or their Enneagram type.
giving them more possible ‘soul-mate’ selection.
a successful relationship requires more than just being your MBTI type.
it requires skills, it requires knowledge, understanding, wisdom.
requires humility, integrity, honesty, trust, etc.
i’m not knocking on this list.
i think if the person doesn’t know who he/she is themselves, then maybe this chart works.
but honestly, people ‘naturally’ are drawn to their ‘soul-mate’ type.
so many adult couples who have no idea what MBTI is, are married to their ‘soul-mate’.
but they are the ones also who says “only if i knew this was going to happen, i would’ve waited until i found my soul-mate”
i don’t know if i explained myself well here.
my thought are all over the place.
not so good at organizing.
but this is my theory.
and using data from my observation.